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Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Drive Me & Cheryl to the Mall: A Parent's Guide to the New Teenager, Revised and Updated | 
 enlarge | Authors: Anthony E. Wolf Ph.D., Anthony E. Wolf
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Category: Book
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Rating:  130 reviews
Sales Rank: 3884
Media: Paperback
Edition: Revised
Pages: 240
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.5
Dimensions (in): 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.7
ISBN: 0374528535
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.874
EAN: 9780374528539
ASIN: 0374528535
Publication Date: August 1, 2002
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Amazon.com Review
This is a survival guide for parents who find themselves marooned among volatile and incomprehensible aliens on Planet Teen. Area maps cover the obvious ground--there are chapters on school, sex, suicide, and so on--but it's the title of Chapter 2, "What They Do and Why," that best captures the book's spirit and technique. Anthony Wolf's modus operandi is not so much to make pronouncements about what parents should do, as to explain adolescent behavior in a way that's bound to leave parents with a changed view of the plausible options. Wolf is a clinical psychologist, and his writing is clear--even witty--and he doesn't resort to jargon. The expository text is punctuated with snatches of illustrative dialogue, which serve as concrete examples and help parents learn how to see, anticipate, and avoid "bad strategies." (One key mistake is getting dragged into no-win conflicts instead of having the wisdom to shut up at the moment when shutting up would be most effective--albeit the least satisfying--thing to do.) There are also some nicely tongue-in-cheek samples of "ideal" communication--the stuff we imagine might get said if only we were better parents. After one such rosily cooperative and considerate interchange between a father and his adolescent son, Wolf offers the following two-edged comfort: "The above conversation has never happened. Never. Not in the whole history of the world." Message: Parenting adolescents is inherently difficult. Don't judge your efforts by otherworldly standards. --Richard Farr
Product Description
A brand new edition of the bestselling guide to raising teenagers
When Anthony E. Wolf's witty and compassionate guide to raising adolescents was first published, its amusing title and fresh approach won it widespread admiration. Beleaguered parents breathed sighs of relief and gratitude. Now Dr. Wolf has revised and updated his bestseller to tackle the changes of the past decade. He points out that while the basic issues of adolescence and the relationships between parents and their children remain much the same, today's teenagers navigate a faster, less clearly anchored world. Wolf's revisions include a new chapter on the Internet, a significantly modified section on drugs and drinking, and an added piece on gay teenagers. Although the rocky and ever-changing terrain of contemporary adolescence may bewilder parents, Get Out of My Life gives them a great road map.
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 Just the assurance I needed! August 26, 2010
Inez
This book has provided me with the assurance I need to help me get through these challenging teenage years. I have a 15 1/2 yr.old and a 20 1/2 yr.old that is just as challenging. So this book is putting things into perspective clearly for me.
What a relief!
PARENT GUIDE August 20, 2010
Dawn (CT, US)
This book was eye opening and as much as I did not like what it said, I also realized that it was true. It was funny but serious at the same time so it made for enjoyable reading.
 Useful perspective August 14, 2010
M. Hyman (Seattle, WA USA)
My cousin recommended this book to me since I am the parent of a teenage girl, and going through the period of time in which things are, shall we say, sometimes difficult. I found the book to be a fast but interesting read. Although some of the conclusions could have been gotten to more succinctly, and although in general the book can be reduced to... after a few years they are no longer teenagers... it provides a very valuable perspective to those of us who are parents of teenagers, and there is definitely advice that I will apply and keep in mind.
I had wished there would be some magic incantations that the book would teach, instead of more being about tolerance, boundaries and perspective, but fundamentally, tolerance, boundaries and perspective are probably as much magic as one can wish for.
I like that the book addresses some fundamental issues and fears such as "i would never get away with that when i was a teenager, am i a bad parent?" And "why are they doing this, don't they know I know they are lying?"
I see my teenage daughter in a week... time to try some techniques out live to see if it makes things easier. Definitely worth reading.
and now she's 25! August 6, 2010
Sandi
I can't believe this book popped up and here I am writing a review. My daughter is now 25...this little book saved my life. I read it when I was at my wits end...it was a quick read...I smiled to myself while reading it and suddenly I was not so alone.
The best part was I implemented what it said and within days was seeing positive results.
Today my daughter is 25, well adjusted, has a great career and I believe will be looking for a copy of this book one day,
There is not a year that goes by that I don't speak about this book to a young mom...and have bought many a copy since my first reading it. It was really helpful for friends who were grandparents raising their grandchildren unexpectedly. The gap was large and the book was a wonderful help.
Enjoy!
 Knowledge Rich, Wisdom Light August 2, 2010
Steven M. Siegman (Los Angeles)
I agree with most of the five-star reviewers about the strengths of Wolf's book. He understands teens well, and helps the reader/parent to feel like we are not alone. Wolf even helps us laugh at situations we may have found exasperating or terrifying, no small feat.
Wolf also discusses the generational progress we have made as a society. We have gone from using extreme measures to control kids, even physical violence, to a more permissive way of doing things. Wolf says however frustrating it feels to have kids be more independent, at times rude, we have made a step forward. I agree.
However, a big next step comes when we realize our teenagers show us our faults in extrema. All our unmet emotional baggage gets passed on to our kids, and as they grow up we need to work on ourselves with even more urgency. Up to page 138 (where I have paused), Wolf ignores this dynamic. He repeatedly states there are no communication options, no options at all, better than the ones he suggests. This ongoing confidence in asserting negatives does not pass the sniff test, does not pass the undergraduate epistemology test about proving things do not exist, and does not jive with my experience.
So many people I know found their adult life began when they started seeing the mishegas of their parents, and learned to live differently. Any author about parenting teenagers should address this dynamic. When do we act like jerks towards our kids because they are too much like us? Not enough like us? Because we see them making mistakes we made, but we know we needed to make on our own? Because they are doing what we do, but we are in denial or anger about it? Because for whatever reason, we are not clear? Because our communication skills stink (indirect, reactive, self-centered)?
This isn't a great book for me right now, but there is a great deal of value inside. On the other hand, the overall approach can give blamers and the arrogant more ammunition, and I suggest caution in that regard.
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